June 30, 2007
Home Safe & Sound
Customs and Immigration were a breeze. We actually got a civil servant at immigration that wanted to help. One of the challenges is that she is traveling on a Chinese passport and Visa based on her Chinese name. This would have her immigration processed in her Chinese name. Our immigration agent asked if we had anything that indicated that we had renamed her in China. Fortunately we have a document that states that we have renamed her to Samantha Helena Penner. He accepted this and processed her under her Canadian name, which means that we do not have to go through an officical name change process.
We then had a wonderful surprise as we exited the secure area and saw signs saying "Welcome Home Samantha" from some of our friends that had shown up to greet us. We had expected Donna and Wayne, Cliff and Theresa, but Joanne and Kaitlyn and Bev and Peter were there to greet us as well. Kaitlyn is another Chinese adoptee who is now about 3.5 years old and very inquisitive. Once she found out we were bringing home a baby from China she wanted to be there to greet us.
Donna, Wayne, Theresa and Cliff had a great gift waiting for us when we got home - steak, baked potato and caesar salad. Just what the doctor ordered after 2 weeks of rice, noodles, etc. Even though we had been fed 3 times on the plane, this dinner was great. We can't say enough about how comforting it was to have someone pick us up, drive us home, and wait on us once we got there. We are truly blessed to have such great friends, and we don't know what we would do without them.
Now we just need to get our clocks flipped around and figure out what our new schedule will be. Samantha went down about midnight last night and slept until about 4:00. We then played for a couple of hours and we have just put her back down to sleep. Not sure who's going to have a harder time with time, but we're in this together and couldn't be happier.
June 28, 2007
Going Home
Yesterday was a bit of fun. We walked down to the Silk Market, which is about ½ an hour walk from here. The plan was to meet two of the other couples there, and then go next door to the Pizza Hut for lunch – yes, we’re getting a little tired of rice and noodles. Now the Silk Market is 5 floors, crammed full of small retailers and tourists. We walked around all the floors and weren’t able to find the other couples, so left and went to the Pizza Hut. Just as we got there it started to pour, so we figured we’d wait it out and have lunch, and then either take a cab or continue to walk. As it turns out, we missed the other couples at the Silk Market and they were still there when it started to rain. They just caught cabs back to the hotel. Anyway, by the time we were done eating the rain had stopped so we started walking back. Wasn’t long and it started back up again so we found shelter under an overpass. One of the nice crossing guards covered up Samantha in the stroller with his jacket and flagged down a cab for us.
Dinner last night was Peking Duck, or actually Beijing Duck since the city has been renamed. This was organized by our guide, and was absolutely wonderful. Besides the duck she ordered way too much North American style Chinese food which was more than any of us could eat. It was nice to have dinner with the entire group, and we have made an awful lot of good friends. We are looking forward to getting together with many of them back in Canada.
We’re also starting to pick up on Samantha’s cues, and can tell when she’s hungry, thirsty, tired, or just has gas. She is also going down much easier now, and is fighting it far less. It’s nice to not have to struggle to get her to sleep, and have her wake up with a smile on her face.
Today was travel day for most of our group. We went down at 2:00pm to say goodbye to them. We have all gone through a lot together, and our children provide us a common thread – maybe a red one. Most people are a bit anxious about the trip, 13 hours non-stop. We’re part of a group of 4 couples that are traveling tomorrow. The rest of the day is going to be very quiet, just getting our bags packed and trying to get rested. Who knows what tomorrow’s flight will be like.
So with that, we end the postings from China. The next posting will be after we get back to Toronto, and we look forward to getting back to a regular routine. We’ll let you know how the travel went at that time.
June 26, 2007
June 26
Back to the Silk Factory. Just as we were leaving there last Sunday Shirley noticed a few items that she would like to get, but time didn’t allow. So back we went today. They really do have a beautiful selection of a large variety of products made from silk, with very reasonable prices. This includes everything from sheets, shirts, jackets, pajamas and scarves to shoes, purses, pillows and quilts. Fortunately our limited wallet prevailed and we left there without having to take out a 2nd mortgage.
In the afternoon we ventured out into the heat for a short walk. About 15 minutes from the hotel is the Oriental Plaza, a very large, high-end shopping mall. This was a great place to just walk around in an air-conditioned environment. We’re also trying to get Samantha used to the stroller. She doesn’t like sitting in one spot, and has a limited patience as to how long we can leave her in there. We were told by colleagues that recently lived in China that the girls from Chongqing were hot-beautiful, and hot-tempered. She is so far proving both of those to be correct.
The rest of the day was pretty uneventful; although we find that every day Samantha is becoming more and more familiar with us and is opening up a lot. She is more comfortable sitting and playing by herself, as well as rewarding us with that beautiful smile merely for the fact that we look at her.
The other thing is that you need to be an extremely cautious pedestrian. In the pecking order on the streets, you’re at the bottom. Crosswalks really only indicate to drivers that they may suddenly encounter a new speed bump. Buses have priority, with cars, motorcycles and bicycles fending for their share. To give you an example of how low pedestrians are, if you are crossing with the light, traffic turning across the crosswalk has the right of way. To make matters worse, red lights seem to only impact left turn and straight through traffic. Traffic making a right on red in reality has a green light with higher priority than the pedestrian crossing with the light. This traffic basically merges with the flow of the traffic that has a green light. It is very difficult as a Canadian where the pedestrian always has the right of way, whether they are in the right or not. There have been many times that we have been crossing a street only to have a car cut us off.
As much as we are enjoying this experience, we're ready to come home. We've started the countdown.
June 25, 2007
June 25
As we had mentioned earlier, Samantha has a cold, and the doctor confirmed that it is just a cold and nothing else. We’ve also noticed that she’s been pulling on her ears. The doctor checked and said that there is some wax buildup, but she can see past it. She gave us some hydrogen peroxide drops to help clear that up. Along with the expected Mongolian spots, she also has a red patch on the back of her neck which the doctor confirmed was just a birth mark and will most likely fade. For those of you unfamiliar with Mongolian spots, these are grayish patches on the skin that normally fade as the child ages. They can easily be mistaken for bruises, so it’s important that our doctor document these when we get back so that we don’t get suspected of child abuse. These are very common among Asian children and are absolutely nothing to be concerned about.
The rest of the medical was relatively normal with no concerns:
- Length – 70.5 cm (~25 percentile)
- Weight – 8 kg (~20 percentile)
- Head circumference – 42.7 cm
These are pretty consistent with what we expected, if not actually a bit better.
We have now signed off to the Canadian government that we accept Samantha, and that we wish to proceed. The documents were delivered to the Embassy in the afternoon, with the expectation that her Visa will be completed and ready for us on Thursday.
The remainder of the day was open, so we went back to the room and had a bit of a rest, then put Samantha into the stroller for a little walk – in the 38˚ weather. Just a quick walk down to the grocery store and back. Samantha was good in the stroller for about three quarters of the trip, but then I had to carry her the rest of the way back. Not bad for her first time.
After that we just had a quiet afternoon getting to know each other better. Some of the others in the group were heading out to Pizza Hut for dinner, but Samantha had already gone down so we passed, although we did ask them to bring us one back – needed a break from the steady diet of Chinese food, and it sure was good.
Samantha’s smiles and laughs are coming a bit more freely, but she does have a number of other faces that she is more than willing to share with us as well.
June 24
Today is the day that we see the great wall. It’s slightly less than 2 hours from our hotel, but we’ll break the trip in ½ by stopping at a Jade Factory on the way. Here we were able to see how raw jade is taken through the process and how it is carved. Some of the work is absolutely incredible. What we learned is that there are basically 3 grades of jade, “A” which is the best quality and most expensive, “B” is the more common grade that many people purchase, and “C” is the grade that you buy for your friends. They brought out bracelets of each grade to show us how to tell the difference. When you strike them they have a very distinct and different tone – “C” sounded like clinking a glass, “B” sounded like fine crystal, and “A” had a very pure, crisp, high pitched ‘ting’.
They had some very beautiful pieces there, but we opted not to purchase anything at this time – not even from the “for friends” category.
Next we visited the Great Wall. Let me start by saying that we got to there at about 11:30, and the temperature was starting to creep past the 36˚ mark. Samantha was still asleep and we decided that we would hang back and let her continue to sleep, and head out once she woke up. By that time people were starting to come back, totally drenched and exhausted from the heat. Shirley decided then that she’d stay in the bus with Samantha while I ventured off far enough to take some pictures and say that I’ve climbed parts of the Great Wall. Mission accomplished, but not without getting my own shirt drenched.
The rest of the afternoon was spent quietly in the room, letting Samantha play a little longer in the bathtub to cool off. Hopefully she’ll love the pool as well as the tub. After that there was playtime, more feeding, more diapers, more bottles, then finally bed. All in all a good day.
One of the things that we have realized is that these tours in this weather take a huge toll on everyone. Samantha still naps in the morning, which is always difficult during a tour and never comes at a convenient time. We seem to be constantly waking her shortly after she’s fallen asleep, then not being able to get her back to sleep. So, along with her cold, Samantha can be a bit of a cranky baby – and understandably so. Add the fact that Samantha really doesn’t like the bus and we’ve decided that we’re done taking any more tours. We’ve seen the major things that we wanted to see anyway.
June 23, 2007
June 21-23
Friday was the day that we finalized our Chinese paperwork. Samantha is now officially and forever ours. Then it was off to the airport and Samantha’s first plane ride. This was another basically uneventful flight with excellent service from our local guides. The only thing that we would have preferred would have been to have an earlier flight, but given the paperwork that had to be finalized I don’t think that we could have done any better. Our flight didn’t arrive back into Beijing until 7:00 pm and it was almost 8:30 by the time we got to the hotel and checked in. It was another hour before our luggage, along with the bags that we had stored here, made it to our room. We decided not to bath Samantha and just got her settled and asleep, which at that took until almost 11:00. We then got our luggage unpacked and sorted and finally made it to bed ourselves.
I’ve included a few shots that we took while in Chongqing to give you a flavour of what the city was like.
Today has been pretty good. Samantha woke up once early in the night and we gave her a small drink of water (thanks Joanne and Sandra for your words of advice) and she went promptly back to sleep. She then slept until 6:00 when she started to fuss. Shirley made a small bottle of formula and fed her while she slept and she was good until 8:30. Of course Shirley and I were now awake and took advantage of this time to get showered and take care of some things. I took off in search of more water – something you get used to here since none of the tap water is drinkable, although the tap in the bathroom in this hotel says drinking water. What I hadn’t taken into consideration as I left the room is that today is Saturday, and shopping would have a different time schedule. Starbucks doesn’t open until 8:30, the grocery store doesn’t open until 10:00, nor does the other mall across the street. I did find a small grocery store which was no bigger than our typical corner store, so did manage to find some water. What I also found along the way was a KFC and Dairy Queen – we already know where the McDonald’s is.
The only appointment that we really had today was with a photographer to get Samantha’s picture taken for a Canadian visa which she’ll need since she will be traveling on a Chinese passport. Our guide had also arranged to have a couple of tailors to come in with some fabrics. One tailor came in with silk so we have ordered a couple of dresses for Samantha. The other had some wool fabrics so I felt compelled to order a suit. Shirley passed on both.
One of the things that we hadn’t gotten yet, but will need tomorrow is a stroller. Shirley and some of the other girls entrusted the babies with their fathers and went shopping. We had originally thought we would just buy a cheap one and worse case throw it away at the end of the trip. She didn’t find an appropriate selection that she liked, but found a nice little stroller that, although probably more that we had originally wanted, is quite nice and we plan to take it home. Life back in the room was quite uneventful – basic dirty diaper, couple of bottles of formula, cereal, some play time, walks around the hotel, etc. Lots of smiles and only a few tears. All indications are that Samantha is adjusting quite well to her new family – not going into the bonding discussion since it will be quite some time before we are able to tell whether bonding has occurred, not occurred, or really ever was an issue.
June 20, 2007
June 20
Anyway, as we said, today was adoption and finance day. We met in the lobby at 10:00 and were taken to the Civil Affairs office. This actually went quite well since we had completed most of the paperwork earlier in the week. What was left was a family picture, signature on the official adoption paperwork which included a fingerprint, and then the Red Book which contains our formal paper. Samantha also received a beautiful little plaque of the government building in a nice wooden box with the words “Mountain city – Chongqing lies in my heart forever”
This was fairly quick and we get back to the hotel well before 12:00. Next on the agenda was the bank at 2:00 so that we could exchange our traveler’s cheques into Chinese RMB, and then transfer the funds to the orphanage. This was the first time that this process was used – previously we would have had to bring pristine $100 USD bills. Any bills that looked the least bit questionable, writing on it, folded corner, worn, would be rejected and we would be forced to provide a substitute. Fortunately we have gotten past that, and there’s still some kinks in it, but certainly it will be a lot better once it gets perfected. Fortunately I went alone and Shirley stayed back in the room with Samantha. The rest of the families brought their babies and I think they somewhat regretted it. After the bank the plan was to stop buy a local supermarket and pick up a few things. I was going to go back to the room and get Shirley but thought better and just did the shopping myself but as it was the group didn’t get back to our rooms until almost 6:00. Shirley was thankful when I finally got back as Samantha had been fussing and wanted to be held and would not let Shirley set her down. We haven’t weighed her yet, but she is certainly a hand full and our, ok my, old muscles aren’t what they used to be. Somehow I’m thinking Samantha’s going to be my training regiment.
So, another night of room service and quite honestly, shortly to bed even though it’s only 8:30.
ps…yes, there are more pictures to post. Unfortunately the Internet access is in the bedroom so I only want to go so far as cutting and pasting the text. I’ll try to post pictures in the morning before tomorrow’s excursion – the Panda Zoo.